A break thru..

Monday night, I came home from class. The kids were already for bed, chores and bible reading done. Then I walked into the kitchen and noticed that someone did not finish their chores.

You see on Monday's when Dad and I have class. I usually let the kids get their own dinner. (ex. soup, sandwich) When they do this they are all responsible for getting their dishes into the dishwasher, but it is also the person's job who has that chore for the week to make sure it is done. If not then they are responsible to take care of it. Well, this particular Monday, they seemed to think they were not. So they left it. I asked them to come downstairs to do it. They were mad, and it seemed to them that it was appropriate to be rude and disrespectful.

So, we knew that once the dishes were done it was going to be time to have a chat. I just love those late night chats. So as we talked about what we thought were responsibilities of a family. What are the responsibilities of being in the family. They proceeded to tell Dad and I, that we weren't a family. So we asked why. We sat there for quite a few hours with a whole lot of no talking going on. We compared family life in Ukraine to family life here. There were alot of similarities. So we were confused about why they thought we were not a family. We were told that families LOVE each other, take care of each other, do fun things with each other, talk nice to each other. So we asked then, if that is what families do and that we do all these things, and if all these things (that they felt made a family) were done to them in Ukraine, then why did they feel the need to treat the family the way they do?

BINGO... that is when the Lord spoke to me and I felt I was to ask a particular question. Are you being so mean, because your heart has so many hurts and pains?

Then that's when... Break thru.. They said YES!. WOW! I thought. HONESTY, what a great thing. Then I asked well do you WANT us to LOVE you? The answer was YES! WOW! Another break through. So we talked about choices. We talked about what they could do to help our family seem like a family to them. They want to change the negative behavior, but do not seem to think they can. We know that it is hard to TRUST someone. Especially an adult. Since all the adults that you previously ever had contact with failed, abused, and or abandoned you.

We are excited to see this Break thru take place. You see this particular child does not show emotion. The particular child keeps her feelings other then anger locked up. So now we just need to work on our child letting us LOVE them, without feeling stressed of the outcome. We talked about how we are not perfect parents and that we make mistakes. But the bottom line is, that we will continue to Love them anyways. We won't love the behavior, but we still love the person.

Football Clinics

Jake is going to be starting HS in July. He wants so bad to play Freshman Football. They are starting their clinics, so here he is enjoying what he enjoys. He is the one in the Burgundy shorts. He is the smallest out there it seems. Just weighing in at 92 pounds. His feet are growing though. He put on his cleats, from Flag football and they were crushed in the shoes. He wore them anyways. OUCH!

Update on Jasmin

Look how BIG she is getting. She is such a cutie. She is trying to find her pecking place between Abby and her. It is not pretty, but how can you not love that face??





Here she is tired from playing with the pups. She has already had her first ER Vet visit. She decided to get into the outside garbage. She ate a little of whatever was in there. She was not felling well, and was starting to blow up like a balloon. So JD took her to the vet. She was fine. He just had to restrict her for the night from her food. Poor thing wasn't even hungry, so she was OK with that.

Volleyball

Here are some pics from Toma's game. I had forgot to bring the camera a few times. This is their 5 game. They have WON every game. They play really well together as a team. I just love the team spirit.

Jd takes the kids mini golfing.. Yeah, quiet time for MOM..

In the car on the way there.
Posing for the camera.. SMILE, I can't I have a sucker in my mouth..


Jd was very nice, he decided to take all his siblings mini golfing. They had fun, putting the ball in the bushes. They even had a squirrel chase them. Well, that is what Nadya thought. LOL.. It was actually running from them. LOL..








I need to sit. I am HOT and TIRED... :D

Easter Celebration

Pictures with the family.













Checking out their cards and chocolate. :D












A nice quiet dinner with just the 9 of us.. We had a simple dinner of Ham, cheesy scalloped pototoes and mixed veggies.. For Dessert we had our Paska bread we made.











They finally asked if they could color some eggs. After saying that they did not want too. Even the oldest was in on the fun..