Girls....becoming Godly Girls....

Well, usually I do not post about this stuff. One of our daughter's was getting ready for school and she had on her Halloween costume. She forgot to put clothes underneath. So we talked about Modesty and why it is important to respect our bodies.
She did not want to hear what I had to say. I had her look at me, to make eye contact. She still has a hard time with this. I told her the most important thing is to respect ourselves. If boys like you for your body, then they are not worth your time. They need to like you for what your heart shares and your brain tells. I told her, I believe she has a BIG heart and is VERY smart, so she has ALOT to offer. That the way her body looks is the least important thing. So don't ever forget that.
As I wiped her tears from her eyes, my heart aches. I pray that they undertand my heart. I pray that they understand that I want the best for them. I am their mother and I want to protect them. I pray that they understand my teaching, God is my teacher.

We been having alot of talks about "Sex" I want the door to always be open when it comes to this subject. I do not want them to be or feel embarrassed. I am forward and straight to the point. I have always been. Ask the boys.

In Ukraine sex is not a big deal, as far as what you wear, if you sell your body, If you are not married. How short is the skirt and how high are the heels. This is all OK there, it is normal.
Having adopted teenager girls, I have not been the one to show them what is appropriate. (God's standard's) What they had learned was much by watching the older girls in the orphanage and by watching MTV, so now they are learning. It is hard for them. It is hard for them to understand why they cannot watch MTV, when they could at the orphanage. I tell them you watch things that are racy, things that fill your thoughts up with UNGodly thoughts, you to will start acting like them.

Romans 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is-his good,pleasing and perfect will.


We talk alot about what God says. I tell them "Sex" is great, when you are married. That is the way God intended it to be. Between man and woman. They agree and then tell me but what about so and so. God still loves them. I tell them yes, you are right, but that is a whole different discussion in itself.

Ephesians 5:31 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one flesh."

They are becoming more open with me. They share about their pasts. What they have walked through as young children. The neglect, the physical abuse, no food, no love, heartache. It breaks my heart. I wish I could take all their pain away. I cannot.

God will use all for his glory. I always tell them that they are strong. Stronger then anyone I know. I tell them that I am so thankful that God was so awesome in bringing us together as a family. A family that is going to love and protect them no matter what. A family that will help them (with God's guiding)become the women of God that God so designed for them to be. As they grow and mature in the Lord, I see his plan even more so. I am excited for when they walk on their own with the Lord. They will do great things unto him(God)

Ephesians 6:4 Father's do not exasperate your children: instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord

Proverbs 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it.


I wanted to leave some statistics about what happens to orphans that are not adopted..
As Mike and I seek to love orphans, we need to know who they are, particularly the orphans of Ukraine. It is hard to imagine ourselves as children growing up without the love and guidance of our families. Who are these children? What happens to them?

In a country where the average standard of living has decreased by 80% over the last 18 years, poverty and sickness are brought on by the inability to provide adequate nutrition and healthcare. Least able to fend for themselves are the children who are abandoned and orphaned.

There are over 100,000 children in Ukraine's orphanages.

There are more than 450 orphanages in Ukraine.

90% are orphaned due to their parents' alcoholism, imprisonment, or abandonment.

10% are orphans because of the death of their parents.

After "aging out" of the orphanage system at age 16,* 10% of orphans commit suicide before the age of 18.

60% of the girls end up in prostitution.

70% of the boys end up in crime.

Only 27% are able to find work.

The older a child gets, his or her chances for adoption drastically decrease.
(Statistics from Ukraine Orphan Outreach)